Wouldn't it be nice if we could do something more to help turn our spouses on? Yes…it’s called: have a look at yourself and what your sexual entitlement is playing a part in the negative dynamic. This podcast diminishes the pain and reality of low desire partners. Check out the study (Dr Cami Hurst ?) which included 1300 participants revealed that low-desire can often be the result of many years of concentual-yet-unwanted (yes that is a thing) ‘duty sex’ by women in an effort to avoid negative reactionary responses by their partners, ie: sulking, coercion…basically anything that happens after the ‘NO’ After many years of this unhealthy dynamic, women not only experience PTSD symptoms, but a full-blown sexual aversion to their husbands, along with a complete shutdown of their sexuality. Then they are labeled with the blanket term: ‘Hypo-sexual desire disorder’ and are told to check their hormones or engage in sensate focus exercises with their husbands, further re-enforcing the trauma patterns. Ask me how I know. If this sounds like you, you are not alone. While I truly, truly empathize with the husbands who are on the receiving end of this dynamic, they too need to recognize their part. Please do your research on this and perhaps do a podcast episode on the topic and/or the study. A lot of your messaging is great, but to omit this very real and IMO extremely common dynamic is harmful and doing your listeners a disservice.

If you’re not there, then you don’t understand. Michael has been there, and gives hope and positivity to those of us stuck in a lonely and sexless life. I am the sexually shut-down wife with Cassandra Syndrome, developed after being married to and ignored by someone with Asperger’s for almost three decades. Our sex life ended almost a decade ago, not by my choice. But here I am thinking one day it will be like 1993 again, hanging on to old memories. Michael’s experiences make me see that an end to marriage isn’t an end to me, it’s just the beginning. Any glimmer of a light at the end of the tunnel I live in is welcome. I appreciate this candid and forthcoming podcast, and definitely feel less anxious after listening to the waves.